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How to Help an Addict Get Sober

Medically Reviewed by: Charley Allen

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Seeing a loved one battling addiction can be one of the most challenging experiences in life. The journey to sobriety is often filled with hurdles and can be emotionally taxing for the person facing addiction and their family and friends.

Having the knowledge to guide an addict toward sobriety can be an invaluable asset in their recovery journey. The key to this transition is understanding the intricate nature of addiction, knowing how to recognize signs of substance abuse, and learning how to provide effective and compassionate support during the recovery process.

Recognizing the Problem

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A key part of helping a loved one on their journey to a sober life is being able to recognize the problem. This involves being able to spot signs of substance abuse and understanding what differentiates substance abuse from addiction.

Signs and Symptoms of Substance Abuse and Addiction

Substance use often brings a range of physical and behavioral changes that can be the first signs of a developing problem. The following symptoms may be signs of drug or alcohol abuse:

  • Physical changes: Sudden weight loss or gain, deteriorating personal hygiene, bloodshot or glassy eyes, or unexplained injuries might be noticeable.

  • Behavioral shifts: Unusual or erratic behavior, including neglecting responsibilities at work or school, borrowing or stealing money, and increasing secretiveness, could point to substance use.

  • Unhealthy behaviors: If your loved one is engaged in risky behavior, such as driving under the influence or other illegal activities, it may be a sign of substance abuse.

  • Relationship troubles: Substance use can cause difficulties in relationships with family members, friends, and coworkers.

  • Mental health changes: Increased levels of anxiety, depression, or drastic mood swings can also be linked to drug or alcohol use.

Differentiating Between Substance Abuse and Addiction

While substance abuse and addiction are closely linked, they are not the same. Substance abuse refers to the harmful or hazardous use of any substances, including alcohol and drugs. It becomes an addiction when the person cannot stop using the substance, even when they want to, and even when it’s causing significant problems in their life. Addiction is a disease that affects the brain and behavior, and it can make a person lose control over their use of substances.

Identifying the Stages of Addiction

Understanding the stages of addiction can provide crucial information on the extent of the problem and guide you toward the next steps. Addiction is a long journey that often starts subtly before gradually taking over a person’s life.

  • Early stages: In the early stages of addiction, you may notice your loved one using substances more frequently. This stage is often characterized by increased tolerance, where the person requires more of the substance to achieve the desired effects.

  • Middle stages: As addiction progresses, the person might start relying on the substance to feel normal. They might experience withdrawal symptoms when not using and might start to neglect responsibilities.

  • Late stages: In the final stages, the person’s life might revolve around their substance use. They continue using, despite knowing the harm it’s causing to their physical health, relationships, and overall life.

Recognizing the problem early can play a vital role in the recovery process. Encourage open and healthy communication, express your concerns, and let them know you’re there to support them. Remember, confronting them with judgment or anger might make them feel worse and more reluctant to seek help.

Educating Yourself about Addiction

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To provide the best possible support to a loved one with addiction, it’s crucial to educate yourself about the condition. This involves understanding the science behind addiction, knowing about different types of substances, and recognizing common triggers and risk factors.

Understanding the Science Behind Addiction

Addiction is not merely a lack of willpower but a complex brain disease. When a person regularly uses drugs or alcohol, it can alter the brain’s structure and functioning, making quitting a monumental challenge. Here are some key points to understand:

  • Neurotransmitters: Drugs and alcohol can interfere with how neurons send, receive, and process signals. They can mimic the brain’s natural neurotransmitters or overstimulate the “reward circuit” of the brain.

  • Brain changes: With repeated drug or alcohol use; the brain starts to adjust to the overwhelming surges in dopamine, which can lead to tolerance, making the person use more to get the same effect.

  • The compulsion to use: Over time, the pleasure associated with substance use becomes less, but the memory of the intense pleasure initially experienced remains strong. This disparity can lead to a strong desire or compulsion to use the substance again.

Learning About Different Types of Addiction and Substances

Many substances can lead to addiction, including but not limited to alcohol, cocaine, heroin, and prescription drugs. Learning about the specific substance your loved one is using is important to understand the associated risks and potential treatment options.

  • Alcohol: Despite its legal status and widespread acceptance, alcohol can lead to serious addiction, affecting a person’s physical health, mental well-being, and social relationships.

  • Cocaine: A powerful stimulant, cocaine use can quickly lead to addiction. It can cause severe health issues such as heart problems and mental disorders like paranoia.

  • Heroin: A highly addictive opioid, heroin use can lead to grave health consequences, including a high risk of overdose.

  • Prescription drugs: When misused (taken in a different way or in a larger quantity than prescribed or taken without a doctor’s prescription), medications like pain relievers, tranquilizers, and stimulants can also lead to addiction.

Recognizing Common Triggers and Risk Factors

People grappling with addiction have certain triggers — people, places, things, or emotions that increase their desire to use substances. Recognizing these can help your loved one avoid situations that may cause them to relapse, particularly during early recovery. Common triggers include:

  • Stress: High-stress levels, whether from work, relationships, or other sources, can push a person towards substance use as a coping mechanism.

  • Past trauma: Events from the past, such as abuse or a serious accident, can increase a person’s susceptibility to addiction.

  • Certain people or places: Spending time with friends who use substances or visiting places where they used to use can trigger cravings.

  • Negative emotions: Feelings of loneliness, boredom, frustration, or depression can also trigger substance use.

Understanding these aspects of addiction can provide invaluable insight, helping you guide your loved one along the long recovery journey and develop healthy communication about their challenges and needs. Remember, each person’s experience with addiction is unique, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to recovery.

Building a Supportive Environment

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Creating a supportive environment for a close family member or friend in recovery from addiction is essential. A fundamental component of this environment is fostering an atmosphere of trust and empathy. Understanding the pain they’re experiencing and refraining from judgment or criticism is key to establishing this trust. As they go through the early stages of recovery, they may fear relapse and engage in unhealthy behaviors, but your support can encourage them to stay committed to their sobriety.

Healthy communication is another critical aspect of a supportive environment. Encourage your loved ones to express their feelings, fears, and concerns openly. Active listening can help you understand their triggers, their struggles, and their fear of a drug or alcohol relapse. This open communication can bring you closer, allowing you to support their recovery better.

At the same time, it’s important to establish boundaries and enforce them lovingly. You may need to refuse to enable their addiction—for instance, by not providing money for drugs—while expressing your actions as stemming from love and concern. This approach can protect you and your loved one from co-dependency while still offering support.

Recovery often comes with a rollercoaster of emotions that your loved one will need help navigating. It is essential to provide emotional support and understand their feelings, even when they may feel worse or struggle with potential triggers. Keep in mind that this journey is not linear and that relapses may happen. Your steady support can help them refocus on their goal of recovery.

Finally, encouraging your loved one to engage in substance-free fun and activities can help them see that life without drugs or alcohol can be fulfilling and enjoyable. Whether it’s participating in community events, taking up a new hobby, or focusing on health and fitness, these activities can create a positive outlook, building a satisfying life in recovery.

Remember, the recovery journey is long, filled with ups and downs. Your understanding, patience, and unwavering support can make all the difference for your loved one as they strive towards a sober life.

Encouraging Professional Help

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As you support your loved one in their recovery, encouraging professional help can be invaluable. Many treatment options and programs are available, each with unique approaches to combating addiction.

These options range from inpatient rehab, where your loved one would reside at a facility and receive round-the-clock care, to outpatient treatment that allows them to maintain daily responsibilities while seeking treatment.

Additionally, 12-step programs provide a community-focused approach, helping individuals find solidarity and mutual understanding with others experiencing similar struggles. Explore these options together with your loved one, balancing their comfort level, specific needs, and the severity of their addiction.

In addition to these programs, working with a suitable addiction counselor or therapist can be tremendously beneficial. These professionals specialize in helping individuals understand the roots of their addiction, develop coping skills, and plan strategies for a sober life. A therapist can provide advice, help manage potential triggers, and assist your loved one in fostering healthy relationships. Therapists also provide a safe space for your loved one to express their feelings, fears, and concerns, facilitating healing and understanding.

Medication-Assisted Treatment (MAT) is another crucial aspect to consider, particularly for certain types of addiction. While not suitable for everyone, in some instances, medication can significantly help manage withdrawal symptoms and reduce cravings, acting as a valuable tool in early recovery. Discussing these options with a healthcare provider to determine if MAT could be a beneficial addition to your loved one’s treatment plan is essential.

Remember, every individual’s journey to recovery is unique, and what works for one person might not be the best for another. The goal is to help your loved one access the most effective resources and create a tailored plan that gives them the best chance at a successful and sustainable recovery. Your role in encouraging professional help and actively participating in this process can be a significant part of their support system.

Staging an Intervention

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When planning and organizing an intervention effectively, there are several key steps to consider:

  • Identify the intervention team: This typically includes close family members and friends who have been affected by their loved one’s substance use. Sometimes, including a mental health professional or a person who is in recovery can also be helpful.

  • Pre-intervention meeting: During this meeting, the intervention team should discuss their concerns and determine the key points they wish to express. This could include specific instances when the addiction caused problems, the effects of these issues on the addict and their relationships, and the changes they would like to see.

  • Draft impact statements: Each intervention team member should prepare a brief statement about the impact of the loved one’s addiction on their life. This should be specific, non-accusatory, and express love and concern for the person suffering from addiction.

  • Plan for objections: The person struggling with addiction may be in denial or resistant to the idea of treatment. The team should anticipate these objections and be prepared with compassionate, focused responses.

Next, consider seeking assistance from professionals or intervention specialists. These experts understand addiction and the dynamics that can play out during interventions. They can guide you through the process, provide advice on how to convey your concerns effectively and help ensure the intervention stays on track.

Lastly, ensuring a compassionate and non-confrontational approach throughout the intervention is essential. This is not an opportunity for blame or attack but a heartfelt plea for the loved one to seek help. Maintaining a respectful and supportive conversation is crucial.

  • Start with expressing love and concern for the person.

  • Use “I” statements to communicate your feelings and concerns without blaming the individual.

  • Keep the focus on the need for recovery, not the person’s past actions or other such unhealthy behaviors.

  • Discuss sober activities or other aspects of a healthier lifestyle that the person might be missing out on due to their addiction.

Remember, the goal of an intervention is not to force someone into recovery but to encourage them to recognize their addiction and consider the benefits of a sober life. It’s a challenging process, but with careful planning and a compassionate approach, you can create a turning point in your loved one’s addiction recovery journey.

Supporting Recovery


This stage is crucial when your support, understanding, and encouragement can significantly affect the outcomes. Your involvement will help your loved one navigate the road to sobriety and inspire them to stay on this path despite the challenges that lie ahead.

  • Assist with Finding Support Groups and Peer Networks: Support groups can be a powerful tool in recovery. Help your loved one find a group where they can share experiences and get support.

  • Promote Healthy Lifestyle Choices and Habits: Healthy habits, like regular exercise, a balanced diet, and good sleep, can boost overall well-being and support recovery.

  • Offer Encouragement and Celebrating Milestones: Every day of sobriety is an achievement. Celebrate these milestones and offer encouragement to help your loved one stay motivated.

  • Understand the Importance of Self-Care and Self-Preservation: It’s important for your loved one to take care of their physical and mental health during recovery. Encourage self-care activities like meditation, reading, or taking a walk.

  • Prepare for Potential Relapses and Setbacks: Relapse is common during recovery and doesn’t mean failure. Prepare for these moments and help your loved one get back on track.

  • What to Do If You Suspect A Relapse: If you suspect a relapse, express your concerns and encourage your loved one to seek professional help.

  • Know the Signs of Relapse: Signs of relapse can include changes in behavior, withdrawal from friends and family, or a loss of interest in recovery.

Providing Practical Support

This part of the process involves proactive assistance that addresses their practical needs, contributing significantly to a stable and sober life.

Assist with Practical Needs, Such as Finding Employment or Housing: Finding a job or a safe place to live can help your loved one build a stable life in recovery.

Support Ongoing Therapy and Aftercare Programs: Ongoing therapy and aftercare programs can provide support and guidance long after initial treatment ends.

Create a Relapse Prevention Plan: A relapse prevention plan can help your loved one identify triggers, plan for challenges, and develop coping strategies.

Set Healthy Boundaries: Setting boundaries can help protect your well-being while you support your loved one. This might mean limiting contact if their behavior becomes harmful.


Assisting a loved one through their journey to sobriety is a complex, multifaceted endeavor. It’s important to remember that addiction recovery is a lifelong process, often intertwined with mental health issues that demand a compassionate and patient approach. As families and close friends, we must strive to support, without enabling, promoting healthy behaviors while understanding the power of addiction.

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While some people can stop using substances without professional help, many individuals benefit greatly from a structured treatment program, therapy, and ongoing support. Substance use disorder often co-occurs with other mental health issues that may require professional treatment.

Enabling involves protecting an individual from the consequences of substance use, which can perpetuate the addiction. Instead of enabling, you can offer support by encouraging healthy behaviors, setting firm boundaries, and encouraging them to seek professional help.

Relapse is often a part of the recovery process, not a failure. If a relapse occurs, offer your loved one support, encourage them to return to treatment or support groups, and help them to learn from the experience.

Addiction is a chronic disease, much like diabetes or hypertension. While it can’t be ‘cured’ in a traditional sense, it can be successfully managed. Many individuals with addiction lead healthy, fulfilling lives in recovery.

Caring for a loved one with an addiction can be emotionally challenging. It’s also essential to take care of your mental and physical health. Seek support from other family members, friends, or support groups, and consider therapy or counseling for yourself.

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Edited by: David Beasley

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David Beasley is a certified RADT (Registered Alcohol/Drug Technician). David, moved to California from North Carolina after many failed attempts to get sober.

Medically Reviewed by: Charley Allen

Charley earned his Masters of Clinical Psychology from Antioch University, Los Angeles, and is a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT).He teaches mindfulness to both adults and children in group setting such as schools, corporate workplaces, and medical treatment facilities.

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