People who engage in drug and alcohol abuse are more likely than other populations to suffer from isolation, loneliness, and have weaker social support systems. Our sober living homes for couples in Los Angeles provides the partners in relationship to get sober together with our help.
While having a supportive person in ones life makes recovering from a substance use disorder easier, couples who both suffer from addictions face multiple complications. It is possible for one person in the relationship to be more interested in treating their addiction than the other.
Many people also find that their relationships and addictions are intertwined. For couples who suffer from addiction, substance abuse is often a shared activity and a way of bonding. For that reason, even when both people in a couple are interested in attending a rehab program or other addiction treatment program, they often fear that they will lose their relationship in the process of getting sober.
While many sober living homes allow only single sex residents, sober living homes that allow couples are becoming increasingly common. Sober living homes for couples offer individuals in relationships a chance to pursue sobriety without sacrificing their relationships. Working with the love and support of a significant other during addiction treatment also offers some unique benefits.
While working together in addiction treatment can be uniquely effective, it is important for couples to avoid common pitfalls. Before entering a sober living home for couples, it is important for a couple to establish their motivations and goals.
Entering a treatment program is a commitment. It is essential that both individuals are equally invested in the process. If one person is not entirely sure they are ready to quit, they can jeopardize the sobriety of the other. While it may be tempting to try to convince ones partner to get sober, doing so is likely not to work out in the long run. In fact, trying to convince an unwilling partner to get sober is likely to perpetuate codependency, which is a major contributing factor to addiction. While recovering with a significant other can be done, it is important that both individuals are doing it for themselves.
For couples who are equally committed to achieving sobriety, sober living homes for couples offer unique advantages. These sober living environments allow people to work on themselves and repair their relationships simultaneously. Finding and choosing a sober living home, however, generally takes a little bit of research. Not all multi-sex sober living homes allow hetosexual couples, and not all single sex sober living homes allow homosexual couples. There are some sober living homes that consider relationships a distraction from the recovery process. In fact, many recovery programs advise people not to date at all in the first year of sobriety.
Nonetheless, the existence of sober living homes for couples is testament to the fact that strong relationships can be an asset in addiction treatment.
While some sober living homes explicitly advertise themselves as sober living homes for couples, there are a significant number of recovery homes that allow couples without explicitly stating that in their mission statements. It is generally a good idea to reach out to a sober living home you are interested in to learn what their policies are and discuss your treatment needs. Even if they do not allow couples, staff members will more than likely point you in the right direction.
It is also important to understand that sobriety is about more than just quitting drugs and alcohol. For most people, getting sober involves making significant changes in how they live their lives. Without making these changes, relapse is likely. For couples whose primary shared activity was drug and alcohol abuse, these changes can be difficult to adapt to.
Couples should begin the recovery process with an understanding that the day-to-day nature of their relationship will likely change in unpredictable ways. It may take some time to find new activities, aside from substance abuse, that both individuals enjoy sharing.
It is also wise to keep in mind that not everyone does end up discovering these shared activities. In fact, many people are surprised to find that their boyfriend or girlfriend has a somewhat different personality while sober. Not only do people undergo profound changes during addiction treatment, but they also get more in touch with who they actually are. Not getting along with your partner in sobriety doesn’t mean they are bad people — or that you are a bad person. In fact, this discovery, while painful, is a positive development.
If you are unable to get along with someone while you’re both sober, and you only enjoyed spending time with them while inebriated, chances are high that you weren’t a good match in the first place.
With that said, keep in mind that the recovery process involves significant emotional ups and downs — and with couples that can sometimes translate to relationship problems. If you and your partner experience a rocky patch together during early sobriety, that doesn’t necessarily mean you should break up. It can often be attributed to the difficulties of facing demons for the first time without the numbing of drugs and alcohol. Providing support for your partner when they are suffering is what relationships are all about. While early sobriety is often difficult, loving couples are uniquely advantaged insofar as they are able to provide mutual support, care, and understanding.
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